Thursday, October 2, 2014

Tips For Parents To Avoid The Worst Disciplining Mistakes

By Erich Park


Being a parent is challenging in lots of ways and one of those ways has to do with discipline. How you take this on is going to depend quite a lot upon how you were brought up by your parents.

Kids need examples to follow, along with rules. So if you make rules, you should follow them too. Your kids will be best if you set examples by following the rules of the home. They will do what you do. If you don't want your kids to shout and curse, it's important that the adults in the household aren't always doing this. Many parents have the attitude that what's acceptable for an adult isn't necessarily acceptable for a child. Sometimes this is true. The point is that you have to keep in mind that your children will mimic what you do. Therefore, you need to form good habits, and maintain them, so they will do the same.

Anytime discipline comes in the picture, you need to be on the same page as everyone else. Children often learn that they can turn to one parent for certain things, and the other parent for others. Miscommunication, such as one parent allowing a child to snack before dinner, when the other one said no, is a really bad example. What it comes down to is children will figure out who they should ask for certain things in order to get their way. This is not a good situation. Communication is very important, especially between parents, to avoid these situations. Perhaps someone else watches your child occasionally. This person should know exactly what you expect. The habit of playing one parent against the other should never be allowed to develop.

Parents can sometimes be overly critical of their kids. If you are a perfectionist, and expect your child to excel at everything, you're likely to be making this mistake. This goes beyond discipline, and usually involves parents who want to experience a feeling of success through their kids. It's great to want to see your child do well in school, at sports or in whatever activities they pursue.

These are just a few of the mistakes you can easily make as you attempt to discipline your kids. This isn't rocket science, you need to do things based upon what works best for you. All the same, you can help yourself quite a bit by learning from the experiences of your fellow parents and from experts in the field of parenting. Parenting well is difficult and proper discipline is a part of that.




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